May I share with you an archived blog from last Thanksgiving . . . giving thanks for loved ones here, loved ones missed . . .
Thanksgiving is a time we take mental inventory of our blessings. A family tradition of ours has been to write on a slip of paper what we’re thankful for and guess which family member wrote the gratitude piece.
Reviewing my old journals, I realized how many holidays have been spent in a hospital with a loved one. Many times our Thanksgiving table was a metal tray. The centerpiece was the afflicted one in a sickbed.
I bowed my head low as I read the November entries. The baby son who nearly died from a rare illness and as a young adult, this same son lay still in a trauma unit from late October until January, the result of a near fatal car accident. A younger son who received a kidney transplant, and a husband who suffered multiple strokes, ultimately pronounced brain dead.
Remembrances of gatherings around the bounty of family and food seemed distant while keeping bedside vigils, partaking of a sterile feast in a hospital room. Despite the narrow vision of our personal circumstances, it was clear to see we were not unique. Surrounding rooms and cubicles were crowded with patients and their loved ones. We were not alone.
First, I’m thankful that I’m thankful.
At one time our table was swollen with children and grandchildren. I’m reminded we must seize the moment. Too soon our table can be altered by loss or separation in some form.
I give thanks for occupied chairs. The unexpected miracles seated at our table. I give thanks for empty chairs. Keepsakes holding memories of where my mother and aunt were once seated. Although they are at a greater banquet, their presence remains at our table.
Voices silenced, still heard.
I speak with many who find this special day just another added stress. Fussing and preparing, dealing with family drama of relatives they’d rather not see. I’ve been there. . .
Until . . . I had to be somewhere else that helped me see the radical blessing of everything and everywhere.
Cherish the seat that holds a loved one. The gift of now.
Perhaps it takes a purer faith to praise God for unrealized blessings than for those we once enjoyed or those we enjoy now. AW Tozer
Verna
joanietroester says
Thanks for these encouraging words, Verna. We truly have a blessed hope when we have an eternal focus that rises us above the present struggles. I’m thankful for finding you and Marlene and the critique group and for the updates I hear now and then from you all. Keep writing!
vernabowman says
. . . as we wait for you to return to us! . . . thank you so much for your faithful visits, Joanie – it keeps us close even though we’re a world away!
joanietroester says
Thanks for these encouraging words, Verna. We truly have a blessed hope when we have an eternal focus that rises us above the present struggles. I’m thankful for finding you and Marlene and the critique group and for the updates I hear now and then from you all. Keep writing!
vernabowman says
. . . as we wait for you to return to us! . . . thank you so much for your faithful visits, Joanie – it keeps us close even though we’re a world away!
Karen says
Thankful for you, dear friend!! Another blog that blesses . . .
vernabowman says
. . . and I give thanks in every remembrance of you, sweet friend! Thank you for stopping by to bless me!
Karen says
Thankful for you, dear friend!! Another blog that blesses . . .
vernabowman says
. . . and I give thanks in every remembrance of you, sweet friend! Thank you for stopping by to bless me!
Glenda Mills says
So beautiful Verna and it needs to be shared again. Giving thanks for occupied chairs is such a blessing and empty chairs remind us of those precious ones who were significant in our lives. Praise Him! Praise Him!
Glenda Mills says
So beautiful Verna and it needs to be shared again. Giving thanks for occupied chairs is such a blessing and empty chairs remind us of those precious ones who were significant in our lives. Praise Him! Praise Him!
vernabowman says
It’s true to remember and repeat . . . we are to be grateful who we have while we have them. Thank you for the continued encouragement, sweet friend. Have a nice Thanksgiving with those occupied chairs!
Cindy G. says
How much more poignant this is for me this year! I think I want to read this at the family table on Thursday – IF I can get through it without breaking down. Blessings to you this Thanksgiving dear sister!
verna says
I know, Cindy . . . praying for you and your family. It blesses me that you would share this with your family. Miss you, sweet sister.
Carol Weeks says
Thank you for your beautifully written reminder.
vernabowman says
Carol, thank you for your visit and kind comment. I will be visiting your blog, CCC sister!
Carol Weeks says
Thank you for your beautifully written reminder.
vernabowman says
Carol, thank you for your visit and kind comment. I will be visiting your blog, CCC sister!
Donna Weiss says
Thanks for the precious reminder and encouragement, Verna. Thanks for being such a blessing in so many lives. We praise God for you!
verna says
You, dear friend, are one of the top on my “give thanks for . . .” list. Have a blessed Thanksgiving.
Donna Weiss says
Thanks for the precious reminder and encouragement, Verna. Thanks for being such a blessing in so many lives. We praise God for you!
verna says
You, dear friend, are one of the top on my “give thanks for . . .” list. Have a blessed Thanksgiving.