My mom used to say, “Don’t let people get the best of you.”
You have met people who’ve tried to drain empty your best, haven’t you?
We live in a day when everyone is offended by something. And maybe we wake up with an attitude just waiting in our thin-skin to get offended.
We are all oh-so-human, and you may have noticed humans aren’t natural forgivers.
So, what do we do with ourselves – and others?
Since we’re only responsible for us, we need to know how to cope in a biblical way. The Bible admonishes us not to be oversensitive, and yet countless times my short prayer has been, “Lord, please may I not take offense” while someone is still speaking in an unkind way. We’re fragile.
There was a time not that long ago when I thought every little offense was worthy of confrontation. I believed I had only two choices, do battle or cry, and I knew I wasn’t going to cry.
Gratefully, I experienced grace.
Some offenses are hard to overlook, I know. I know! But it’s not worth the alternative of lugging around the weight of bitterness, anger, and broken relationships.
When others hurt you, remember your spiritual maturity is on display.
Written by the wise man Solomon, he says right there in Ecclesiastes 7: 21-22, Do not take to heart all the things that people say lest you hear another cursing you. Your heart knows that many times you yourself have cursed others.
So, the next time we’re ready to spar, let’s ask our offended selves;
Do I need to make a point at the risk of losing a relationship?
Am I right? No really, am I?
If I shift position (and stand in the other gal’s flip-flops) would I feel the same way?
Yep, I understand. Sometimes there’s just not enough o’s in “It’s just so-o-o hard.”
But it’s then we can quickly forgive (because there’s not enough a’s in graaace) by calling upon our Father to give us the power to do what we are unable to do in our own strength.
Good sense makes one slow to anger and it is his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11